Key Takeaway
Keep conversations focused on practical topics like finances or parenting; if the exchange starts to escalate, step back and revisit it later to keep things productive.
You need to take special care when you’re communicating with your former spouse. These 3 strategies for conflict communications can help.
When conflict is high, try these 4 techniques:
It's tough, but accepting that you can't control how the other person thinks or acts can make things easier. Focus on your own words and actions instead. Stay patient and determined to move forward.
When your ex gets angry or says mean things, it's normal to feel upset or defensive. Notice these feelings and accept them. Take a moment to calm down. Remember, their behavior reflects their own struggles, not your worth. Instead of reacting, try to bring the conversation back to what really matters.
It’s not easy dealing with high conflict people and it can be incredibly draining. Buffer yourself from the negativity with positive people, and by working through your feelings. See Coping and Self Care for more.
If the other parent is using abusive language or makes you feel threatened, take steps to keep yourself safe. Set boundaries. Meet only in public or only in writing. See Keeping Your Family Safe for more.